15: 1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Thoughtfulness, delicacy, discernment,
cordiality, and savoir-faire are all English words synonymous with tact. The
human tongue! This is probably the most power instrument in the world. Our
world today is framed by leaders that have used their tongues to call for war
and subdue kingdoms, it was the same tongue used to further the course of
peaceful coexistence of humanity after colossal destruction caused as a result
of unbridled tongue or quest for power. We can choose to be tactful instead of
Tact is not a way to curdle the weak, but rather
an avenue to strengthen the weak. There are times when we think our
understanding of people transcends their understanding of themselves, mostly in
these instances we commonly pass our messages as if a whole study of human
emotion, or more simply studies on emotional intelligence are mere wastes of time.
There is correction without love, but there cannot be genuine love without
I believe the world would be a better place if
only we can think of others before speaking, visualizing the damage that could
come from unbridled utterances. Our communication should not be ‘self centred’
but rather ‘others centred’. Without caution, the quotidian voice that brings
love and peace can be transformed to an instrument that spreads hate and violence.
We have the capacity to speak wisely; the world will be a better place if only
we can think deeply before denigrating others.
Instead of reacting rudely to people that wrongly
questions our opinions (Facebook posts, professional or political arguments,),
let learn to know that saying ‘sorry’ does not indicates weakness but strength,
welcoming criticism helps in checking our personal prejudices for balance.
Accepting responsibility when we are wrong thicken the tread of our moral
AYODELE FALEYE, PMP, MNIQS,RQS