TACT- A Great Quality for Healthy Human Relationship


Proverbs 15: 1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Thoughtfulness, delicacy, discernment, cordiality, and savoir-faire are all English words synonymous with tact. The human tongue! This is probably the most power instrument in the world. Our world today is framed by leaders that have used their tongues to call for war and subdue kingdoms, it was the same tongue used to further the course of peaceful coexistence of humanity after colossal destruction caused as a result of unbridled tongue or quest for power. We can choose to be tactful instead of being sarcastic.  

Tact is not a way to curdle the weak, but rather an avenue to strengthen the weak. There are times when we think our understanding of people transcends their understanding of themselves, mostly in these instances we commonly pass our messages as if a whole study of human emotion, or more simply studies on emotional intelligence are mere wastes of time. There is correction without love, but there cannot be genuine love without correction.

I believe the world would be a better place if only we can think of others before speaking, visualizing the damage that could come from unbridled utterances. Our communication should not be ‘self centred’ but rather ‘others centred’. Without caution, the quotidian voice that brings love and peace can be transformed to an instrument that spreads hate and violence. We have the capacity to speak wisely; the world will be a better place if only we can think deeply before denigrating others.

Instead of reacting rudely to people that wrongly questions our opinions (Facebook posts, professional or political arguments,), let learn to know that saying ‘sorry’ does not indicates weakness but strength, welcoming criticism helps in checking our personal prejudices for balance. Accepting responsibility when we are wrong thicken the tread of our moral imagination.




Ayo Faleye

A writer

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